This morning me and my mum had a talk about carers. My mum has agreed before that I could do with a carer particularly when she's working and my stepdad is away working (he can be away for up to 6 weeks at a time) but my mum doesn't like the idea of a stranger being in her house. So I've just had to manage without a carer and the things I can't do at all (like cooking) my mum does for me and the things I can't do one day because my body is falling apart too much or I'm too tired I do another day.

My mum used to work split shifts which worked quite well because I weren't alone for hours on end then but now on some days she works nights but 3 days she leaves the house at about 9am and doesn't get back until 7pm so that's a long time for me to be left by myself possibly stuck in bed because my pelvis has completely fallen apart.

So I have 2 options:
option 1: I get assessed by social services and hopefully get a carer to come in at least on those 3 days that I'm usually alone for hours. This would mean my mum wouldn't have to change her hours of work or her job and the carer would hopefully do some of the things my mum usually does for me so my mum would have more time to herself when she got home from work. The downside is that I've heard of some carers not turning up at the right time or not being good at their job.

option 2: my mum changes her work hours or changes her job so that she can look after me between the hours she's working. This would mean she'd have less time for herself and would also mean that we'd be spending more time together. Me and my mum have had our problems in the past and have both been trying to patch things up between us the last few years. Maybe spending more time together would help our relationshp but I get the feeling it wouldn't and would make things worse between us. But my mum doesn't really want a stranger in the house so maybe she'd be happier with this option.

So if anyone has any suggestions as to which option is the best please let me know because I need all the help I can get to make this decision